Read together · Children
Dinosaurs Divorce
An illustrated introduction to family changes, feelings, and living in two homes. A starting point for conversations with younger children.
View book on Amazon (opens in a new tab)Resources for divorcing families
Support for your family. Perspective for your next chapter.
Books for children and parents, articles from divorce professionals, housing planning resources, and Orange County workshops to help you ask informed questions.
Books for familiesProfessional perspectivesHousing & financesOrganizations & workshopsWho does what?Future professional conversations
You have choices about the process—and the team.
Many people first encounter divorce through the idea of a courtroom dispute. Educational workshops and professional conversations can help you learn about mediation, collaborative divorce, and other approaches before deciding how to proceed.
Discuss the suitability of each process with a qualified attorney. The approach, cost, and timeline depend on your circumstances.
For children, parents & adults
A little support for a big family transition.
A book can help start a conversation when the right words are hard to find. This selection draws on Financial Harmony’s recommended resources (opens in a new tab). Explore the descriptions and choose what fits your family.
Parenting through change
Vicki Lansky’s Divorce Book for Parents
Practical ideas for helping children adjust to divorce and the changes that follow, with attention to everyday parenting questions.
View book on Amazon (opens in a new tab)Children & co-parenting
Putting Kids First in Divorce
A collection of perspectives on reducing conflict, preserving relationships, and supporting children during and after divorce.
View book on Amazon (opens in a new tab)For adults · Moving forward
The Good Karma Divorce
An approach to responding to difficult emotions and choosing constructive actions while navigating divorce.
View book on Amazon (opens in a new tab)For adults · Faith-based perspective
The Grace Filled Divorce
A Christian perspective on grief, personal growth, and finding meaning through divorce. Consider whether this viewpoint fits your beliefs and preferences.
Find on Amazon (opens in a new tab)Book links are not affiliate links. You can also check your library or local bookseller. Editions and availability vary; review suitability for your child’s age and circumstances.
Hear the children’s perspective
SPLIT films & family discussion resources
Children and teens share their experiences of divorce in the SPLIT films. The project also offers guides for conversations between parents and children.
Professional perspectives
More voices. Better questions.
Explore selected articles from Kristine Rushing of Financial Harmony. Each link takes you to the author’s full article; the mortgage planning prompts below connect the topic to your housing decisions.
Divorce financial planning
Financial Planning for Two Households After a Divorce
Kristine explores the budget changes involved in supporting two homes and why settlement decisions deserve a longer-term financial view.
A mortgage planning question from Troy
Read at Financial Harmony (opens in a new tab)Before deciding who keeps the home, compare the proposed housing payment with a realistic budget for each household.
Divorce financial planning
6 Common Financial Fears in a Divorce
A discussion of uncertainty around the home, retirement, income, and support—and how organizing the financial picture can help.
A mortgage planning question from Troy
Read at Financial Harmony (opens in a new tab)If keeping the home is a priority, bring the mortgage questions into the team’s discussion while there is still time to evaluate options.
This collection will grow with selected articles and conversations from attorneys, mediators, CDFAs, and other professionals. Original articles remain on their authors’ websites.
Connect the family plan with the housing plan
Understand the numbers before committing to the home.
Housing decisions
Keeping the home after divorce
Explore the questions behind home retention, an equity buyout, and a financing plan that supports your next chapter.
Read Troy’s planning articleMortgage feasibility
Buyouts, refinancing & assumptions
Bring the proposed housing arrangement and mortgage questions into the discussion before the settlement is finalized.
Explore divorce mortgage planningBuild the professional team
What does a CDFA® do?
Learn how divorce financial analysis can support a review of settlement choices alongside your legal and mortgage professionals.
Learn from IDFA (opens in a new tab)What would a workable housing plan look like for you?
Let’s review the mortgage questions with your broader goals in mind. With your authorization, Troy can coordinate with the professionals helping you evaluate the proposed settlement.
Talk with TroyA starting point for homeowners & professionals
Organizations, directories & education
Understand the process
Collaborative divorce in Orange County
Collaborative divorce brings spouses and trained professionals together to work toward a settlement outside contested court proceedings. Learn how the process works, who may be on the team, and what the participation agreement means.
Explore the collaborative processLocal professional connections
Meet the CDSOC professional community
Browse Collaborative Divorce Solutions of Orange County’s directory for attorneys, financial professionals, coaches, and child specialists. Visit the organization’s listings for professional profiles and contact details.
Find a CDSOC professionalFinancial questions
Find a CDFA® professional
A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®) helps analyze the financial implications of divorce proposals. The Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts offers a directory and a way to verify certification.
Search the IDFA directoryOrange County education
Divorce Options workshops
CDSOC’s educational workshops introduce self-representation, mediation, collaborative divorce, and litigation, along with the legal, financial, and family questions people may face.
Explore Orange County Divorce OptionsMore workshop choices
California Divorce Options
Explore Divorce Options workshops from groups across California, including online opportunities. Check with the organizer for availability, registration, and participation details.
Find California workshopsLearn before deciding
Second Saturday workshops
Second Saturday offers divorce education covering financial, legal, and emotional considerations, with online and in-person options through local organizers.
Find a Second Saturday workshopWorkshop dates, fees, presenters, and formats can change. Confirm current details with the organizer; older event dates may remain on their pages. Directory listings and certifications do not guarantee suitability for a particular case.
Different professionals. Connected questions.
- Family law attorneyProvides legal advice about rights, responsibilities, proposed agreements, and the process.
- MediatorFacilitates discussion and negotiation. Ask how legal advice and financial analysis will be handled in your case.
- CDFA® · Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®Analyzes divorce-related financial scenarios, including assets, support, cash flow, and longer-term implications.
CDLP® · Certified Divorce Lending Professional
My role focuses on mortgage feasibility: retaining the home, an equity buyout, refinancing, a possible assumption, or qualifying for a future purchase.
A proposed settlement and a lender’s requirements need to work together. With your authorization, I can coordinate the mortgage analysis with your attorney, mediator, and financial professional while options are still being evaluated.
Discuss a housing scenario with TroyProfessional conversations · In development
The questions behind a workable plan.
Future interviews with attorneys, mediators, and divorce financial professionals will explore process choices, financial decisions, and the housing questions that deserve attention early.
As conversations are published, this page will include the interview, the guest’s professional background, and links to their contact information. No interviews are available here yet.
These links lead to independent organizations. Troy provides mortgage planning, not legal representation, mediation, or divorce financial analysis services. Consult the appropriate professionals for your situation.